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I am a child abuse survivor. As a mother, I have made sure the pattern of abuse will not be
repeated in my son’s life. I am well aware of what to look for in a perpetrator/abuser, and I
have made sure that my child is aware of all the signs and things to look out for because
have been there myself, I can imagine nothing worse than having to watch my son go
through the same torture I did. I know I have done the right thing in educating my child, as
he has recently helped one of his friends who was sexually abused.
My son’s friend came to school one day, and he could tell there was something wrong. My
son picked up on it, and got his friend to open up and tell him what had happened. As it
turns out, my son’s friend babysat for a former teacher the previous weekend, and over the
course of that weekend, the teacher sexually abused him. My son supported his friend and
encouraged him to tell the school counselor and his mother. Two weeks later, the
perpetrator was arrested on four counts and held at $200, 000.00 bail. Two weeks after
that, two more boys came forward and told police that the teacher had molested them in the
past. The teacher is still in jail, with his bail set at $400,000.00.
I am so pleased that I taught my son what to look for in abusers as well as in abuse victims.
It is my prayer that one day it will not be so common for our children to be abused. I will
never be able to stress enough the importance of educating our children and letting them
know that there is safety in telling and that their voices will be heard.
There was a bit more to this story too! I was furious with what was happening in the media
as the news was reporting a one sided story. They were getting information from the
teachers, neighbors, former students and various people throughout the school district
saying how shocked they were. I marched right down to the school in the dark and in
pouring rain. I told the News Caster they needed to hear the other side. How this kind,
friendly, popular, wonderful teacher did in fact fit the profile of an abuser. He was well liked
in the community, accepted by students, staff and community, a nice man, married with his
own kids etc, etc. I also said how sad it is that in our community; we first run to the aide of
the adult and don’t listen to our children. People stated the young boy was lying, that it was
all too unbelievable.
I stated: “when will we embrace our children and protect them? When will we put a stop to
child abuse and quit protecting the adults just because we don’t want to face the fact that it
does happen in our community”? I was so glad I did this. I wanted to support that young boy,
as I knew what it felt like to have nobody defend me.
Cyndi
repeated in my son’s life. I am well aware of what to look for in a perpetrator/abuser, and I
have made sure that my child is aware of all the signs and things to look out for because
have been there myself, I can imagine nothing worse than having to watch my son go
through the same torture I did. I know I have done the right thing in educating my child, as
he has recently helped one of his friends who was sexually abused.
My son’s friend came to school one day, and he could tell there was something wrong. My
son picked up on it, and got his friend to open up and tell him what had happened. As it
turns out, my son’s friend babysat for a former teacher the previous weekend, and over the
course of that weekend, the teacher sexually abused him. My son supported his friend and
encouraged him to tell the school counselor and his mother. Two weeks later, the
perpetrator was arrested on four counts and held at $200, 000.00 bail. Two weeks after
that, two more boys came forward and told police that the teacher had molested them in the
past. The teacher is still in jail, with his bail set at $400,000.00.
I am so pleased that I taught my son what to look for in abusers as well as in abuse victims.
It is my prayer that one day it will not be so common for our children to be abused. I will
never be able to stress enough the importance of educating our children and letting them
know that there is safety in telling and that their voices will be heard.
There was a bit more to this story too! I was furious with what was happening in the media
as the news was reporting a one sided story. They were getting information from the
teachers, neighbors, former students and various people throughout the school district
saying how shocked they were. I marched right down to the school in the dark and in
pouring rain. I told the News Caster they needed to hear the other side. How this kind,
friendly, popular, wonderful teacher did in fact fit the profile of an abuser. He was well liked
in the community, accepted by students, staff and community, a nice man, married with his
own kids etc, etc. I also said how sad it is that in our community; we first run to the aide of
the adult and don’t listen to our children. People stated the young boy was lying, that it was
all too unbelievable.
I stated: “when will we embrace our children and protect them? When will we put a stop to
child abuse and quit protecting the adults just because we don’t want to face the fact that it
does happen in our community”? I was so glad I did this. I wanted to support that young boy,
as I knew what it felt like to have nobody defend me.
Cyndi
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Posey, New Mexico, Las Cruces, Roswell, Traverse City, Radio Guest, Child Abuse Prevention,
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